Sunday, November 21, 2010

Just so you know....

My daughters are playing "mermaids." One is wearing her bathing suit. The other is running around without her shirt on leaving her jeans as the "tail." Uh-huh. This is a true story.

Just so you know....we lost my son at the train show yesterday. This was in one of those huge "centers" downtown that hosts a bajillion events at one time, because they are so huge. And, also, just so you know, there are a lot of scary old men that attend train shows and I was afraid one of them might have absconded with my son. Luckily, my husband found him riding the escalators. He had no idea he was even lost, giving his mother a heart attack. That's the last time we go to a train show.

Just so you know, once you decide that you don't like to do something, the guilt just flies away. This is a great tool to lead to a guilt-free life. I finally admitted to myself that I don't like to cook. I like to watch people cook....I like to eat what others cook...but I hate cooking. I'm not good at it. I lack the patience for it. And I HATE cleaning up the mess. That's why when we're invited to pot-lucks or something, my husband makes the food. That's why, for Thanksgiving, my husband is making all the fancy pies and I'm opening a can of green beans and heating them up in the microwave and calling it good. And that's why I have no more guilt over not being able to or enjoying cooking. I have come to terms with this. And I'm feeling fine.

Also, just so you know, my husband has also cleaned up the kitchen and vacuumed the whole house today. I know I should feel grateful, but in my head all I can think is, "why is he doing this, does he not think I do a good enough job?" Let's not dwell on the fact that I haven't cleaned up in a few days because I'm "saving it for later." Again, I finally thought, "hey...this is a good thing. Let the guilt go! Enjoy this time when you don't have to clean up."

Besides, I can always save it for another day.
Kinda makes me feel like this:

That's how I roll.


  1. No Guilt! I hate guilt! I love your idea of admitting you dont like it to get rid of the guilt. That was me and scrapbooking.;0)
    I am sorry you lost your son. Been there. Its scary.

  2. We have the same life. Seriously. I hate to cook. Hate it. We had a potluck at church today and my husband made the main dish. Also he's the best cleaner-upper ever! It makes me feel guilty and grateful at the same time.

  3. I am the same way. My husband cooks and cleans and does the laundry. Someday, when he is the one with the full-tome job, and I am staying home with our (future) kids, that will change. But for now? I am not going to feel guilty.

    This was just what I needed to read.

  4. My husband is sweeping as we speak! Weeeird. I do like to clean up and cook but I don't always have time and then I feel guilty for it. You'll see plenty of my scary pictures of truth this week on my blog. :)

  5. My husband always cleans the kitchen. And the fridge. I decided it's just how he says "I love you."

  6. i am 100% with you on the cooking. and the cleaning up from the cooking. i have resolved to cook-mind you, i rotate the same 5 meals-but the boyfriend does the cleaning up. it's nice like that, and i like it. i saw something over the weekend that said something like 80% of house fires are from cooking, and so i told him i'm just keeping us safe by not cooking. i am THAT thoughtful!


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